The following is the set of philosophies that lie at the heart of how I coach.
Priority and Perspective
Perspective is a mental view of the relative importance of things, an attitude toward or a way of regarding something. In short, perspective is our point of view. Priority is a thing that is regarded as more important than another. Both our point of view of ourselves, our place in the world, and how we prioritize things shape a great deal of our thoughts and behaviors. Noticing and gently reassessing both perspective and priorities can bring about even the smallest shifts which add up to meaningful changes.
Clarity of feeling, thought, and action has the power to produce amazing change. But in order to bring about that change, we must be willing to question ourselves, not others, to determine our true answers. By looking within, we will better understand what we want, and more importantly why we want it, which will help us develop a strategy for achieving our personal growth aims.
Closely related to clarity are three little magical words that can lead to substantial breakthroughs. Always. Ask. Why. In order to step away from current thoughts, patterns, and stories, we must be willing to continually ask ourselves why we have moved through life as we have in the past and if we’d like to change that course in the future. Only by asking and then truly listening and honoring the answers can we make significant progress toward abundance in all areas of our lives.
One of the traps many of us fall into (myself included) is what is called Splitting. Splitting is the official term for All or Nothing Thinking. While usually not carried to extremes, all or nothing thinking can pose obstacles when trying to bring together both the positive and negative aspects of new ideas, concepts, and especially change. Roots of Abundance classes emphasize a more gradual, step by step approach to change thereby reducing fear and encouraging a more integrated and positive mindset in times of transition.
Storytelling is one of the most powerful and enduring communication constructs known to man. Stories have crossed oceans and continents, handed down from parent to child, master to apprentice. One of our biggest challenges is taking the time to examine the stories we’ve been told not only by society but also by family, friends, cohorts, and most importantly ourselves, about who we are, what is expected of us, and what we should do. Taking time to examine the stories we’ve come to believe is critical on our journey through change.
Compassion for the Self
Compassion is a feeling of deep sympathy for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering. That combination of having sympathy for and showing kindness toward ourselves in times when we are struggling is crucial in any personal growth endeavor.